The match trick

So for this trick, you need to be topless, and you need a book of matches. And please practice before you do this. Lets start with one nipple at a time.

Tear out a 2 matches. Take one and split the bottom in two. Like the match has legs. Let the legs go half way up the match stem. Then make sure your nipple is hard and put the "legs" on your nipple with the match head sticking up. Squeeze the legs together on the nipple to give them more grip them make sure you pull the match head away from your nipple so it's pointing out at an angle; that way it won't burn you as it ignites. Then use another match to light it. Make sure that the head is pointing away from your body by holding the legs around the nipple and pulling it away from your body. This is key! Then once it is lit, let go. Do a little shimmy. Then when the fear sets in, blow it out. Or let him. But go at least 5 seconds.

Once you can master one, then you can move on to two nipples.

Good luck! And don't burn your house down!

Another lap dance article

So I found this on Askmen.com titled

7 Lap Dance Moves To Make You Melt. my comments in italics :)

Women's magazines slip us the kind of information that we wouldn't find elsewhere; they reveal a female perspective that most men just aren't privy to. How they read into our behavior, how they perceive our actions, what their true expectations are... there's plenty to be learned from a glimpse into the other side. AskMen.com will be providing you with just this kind of gender intelligence -- without the embarrassment that comes with retrieving it from your girlfriend's magazine rack. We'll be publishing a series of features from iVillage.com; articles originally written by women for women, but with insight that's invaluable to men. Of course, in exchange, we had to offer up some intelligence of our own... all the more reason for you to get on the inside track as soon as you can.

dirty dancing

You know what kind of dirty little dances your gal can do to turn you on, but explaining them to her is a different story. iVillage.com gives you seven sizzling lap dance moves with descriptions that are simple for her to try. So sit back, relax and let her do all the work for a change. ..heyyy

naughty moves

Want to make your guy go gaga? It's not just about what you do in bed that counts. Sure, great sex technique will make you a star in his eyes, but knowing how to tease him will make you a legend. Don't believe us? In The Little Bit Naughty Book of Lap Dancing for Your Lover, real-life exotic dancer Rebecca Drury spills the seven secret -- and really sexy -- steps that work on every guy, every time. You can thank us later.

1- The Grinding Circle
Stand about 60 centimeters (two feet) from your partner, with your feet slightly more than hip-width apart and your toes turned out. With your hips, begin to draw a circle, keeping your back arched. Now slowly bend your knees and grind down as far as is comfortable, then up again, continually undulating your hips and dancing erotically. It's really important to keep your back arched and upright. If you lean forward, you risk impersonating a sumo wrestler. eww, no! don't turn your toes out ick. keep your feet shoulder width apart or closer and lift one heel when you do this. much better.
2- The Turn
Lap dancing is about showing off all your assets, so remember to turn around occasionally. For the best effect, turn slowly -- your lover should barely notice. When you practice, work out which direction is most natural for you to turn in. And don't be overly concerned with how you do it; just take small steps and aim to make the turn blend into and become part of your dance. Keep circling your hips and remember your arm movements. As far as possible, try to keep your lover in your gaze as you turn. this is kind of lame, but yeah you do want to give front and back views.
3- The Slap and Tickle
Turn your back to your audience, and with straight legs, bend forward slightly, look back at him coquettishly, and stroke or lightly slap your bottom. I guarantee this will make him smile. Alternatively, still with your back to him, gently sway from your ankles, opening your legs gradually. Slowly bend over so that your bottom is brazenly pointing at your man. Bend one knee to the side and straighten the other out to the other side. Glide your hand up the straight leg and raise your head over the corresponding shoulder to look back at him. Slap your bottom hard. Repeat on the other side. we actually have a move like this called the thigh high. good stuff. they love the ass slap.
4- The Lap Dance Grind
Gracefully dance yourself into the triangle made by your lover's open legs, and stand with your back to him and your feet together. Make sure you're as close to the chair as possible. Now bend your knees, keeping your back straight, and gently put your hands on your partner's knees. Lower your bottom toward his lap so that you can just feel his crotch on your skin. Then, keeping your hands on his knees for support, grind down gently, moving your hips in a circular or forward-and-backward motion. Look over your shoulder at your man while you do this, if you can. This is a little tricky, though. Take extra care whenever you go near his groin. If you hurt him, he'll never trust you to dance for him again. yes, yes, the grind. but try to use the arms of the chair for support and try to sit up straight, and toss your hair a bit too.
5- The Breast Stroke
Every woman has her own personal scent that collects between her breasts, no matter what size they are or what perfume she wears. It's a potent aphrodisiac. So this step is guaranteed to get your lover going. Move closely into the space between his knees. Standing with your legs straight, gently lean forward and place your hands on either side of the chair. Once you have a firm hold, push your breasts toward his face; his nose should be nestled in your cleavage. For added effect, try brushing from side to side and stroking the end of his nose with your bra or nipple. Keep moving in a provocative way throughout. yes again, but put your hands on his shoulders or cradle his head in your hands or one of your hands
6- Knee Strokes
Facing your partner, stand between his legs, as close to the chair as you can. Place your knees in the space between his crotch and the edge of the chair. Gently put slight pressure against his groin with your knees. Lean toward him and blow gently into his ear or on his face. You could even exchange a mouthful of wine with him or pour champagne from your nipples into his mouth. hmmm that sounds a bit to strip club vip room to me..lol As a variation, try this: Stand up facing your lover, then catch one of his knees between your knees and gently rub up and down his thigh. i think this one looks terrible. but whatever. This is a fabulous sensation; ask him to do it to you sometime.
7- The Body Slide
Standing between your lover's thighs, lean forward and put your hands on the back of the chair for support. Put one knee on each of his thighs, then lift your torso, slide your knees into the space in front of his crotch (careful here!) and slide, slowly, all the way down his body until you're kneeling on the floor in front of him. To get up off the floor, use your lover's knees for support and stand up sexily -- bring your bottom up first, then flick your hair in his face as you raise your upper body. this move is waaaaay more complicated than they describe it here and def takes some practice. this is a move that girls struggle with in the beginning in my class. it's a great move, but don't try this at home on him without practicing on someone first. seriously.

http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_150/169_dating_girl.html

Lap dancing in the club vs. lap dancing at home.

So, as you know I was a dancer for a decade. In that time, I only did a handful of bachelor parties, most of my work was at an actual club. Now, I teach women how to dance for their man in their own homes/hotels etc. Knowing that this would be different we did some research in the beginning on how dances would translate when you were using a couch, arm chair, bed etc. But this was 2 girls doing research. It wasn't 2 lovers experimenting. And recently I just realized it really is sooo much easier in a club.

You see I just had the opportunity to do an in-home dance for a guy, and it was much harder than I thought. I was trying to think of the last time I danced for a guy outside of work and I believe it was about 10 yrs ago. Most of the guys I dated actually went to see me work in the club and had dances there. And after I retired, I was mainly with one person who had seen me dance a million times, so it just wasn't something I did for him. And the other guys I dated, well, I didn't offer and they didn't ask. But recently the guy I'm seeing asked me to dance for him. My first thought was oh shit, I am so out of practice! Dancing in a studio or teaching a woman how to dance is much different that performing. Especially when you really like the person.



The first time was very short but the last time there was an actual full song or 2. In those few songs I learned a thing or two. First of all, I tell all you gals that carpet is bad, and I fully stand by that. It is sooo hard to balance in the stripper shoes on carpet. Secondly, in the club every chair is the same, so it is easy to maneuver your props, like the extra chair, the table etc. You know exactly how to lean, where to prop up your foot, etc. So here is some advice. If you are really planning to dance for your man, try to do a dress rehearsal with your best girlfriend. Let her sit where he would sit so you can experience what it really is like. Preparation really is key, from where you dance, to costume, to music. It really does make a difference. Mine was impromptu, but I know I could have rocked it better with a little prep. I also stand by the fact that arm chairs are the best, but a couch is ok if that is your only option. And my God, it is really hard to make him keep his hands to himself. Dammit! In the club it is easy as pie, they will get kicked out if they touch you, but in the privacy of your own bedroom, there are no bouncers, and you want him to touch you. So yeah, by far the hardest thing. We have mentioned tying up your man to do your dance. This might actually be a really good option. But I have to say, it was much hotter, for me anyway, than any dance I ever did in the club for someone I was seeing.



So, the dance was very steamy and definitely a turn on, for both of us. In class I always say, "And the last thing you do, at the end of your dance is....have hot sex!" And yeah, I still stand by that.. 100%.

Lap dance how to!

I didn't write this but it has some good points.

http://www.exotic-lapdance.com/lap-dancing-instructions.html

The ultimate lap dancing instructions guide My notes in red...
Welcome to the ultimate lap dancing guide that will get you bumping and grinding in no time. Have fun following these simply steps, learn to shake it like a pro and drive your partner crazy with no effort at all...
Bumping and grinding not only for professionals
When provided in clubs, lap dancing is generally performed by professional exotic dancers. But you don’t have to be a professional to let loose and have some sexy fun! All you girlfriends, wives, husbands and boyfriends (yes, you guys too!) can learn how to perform a lap dance with this simple lap dancing instructions guide.

Start by internalizing this basic rule for success
First things first, in order to give a lap dance and enjoy any kind of sexual activity, you must FEEL COMFORTABLE with your body. Accept and enjoy yourself regardless of shape or size. Remember - you can't look sexy if you don’t feel sexy. Very true ladies, but this is a no brainer I think. That being said, I know we all have our issues. Try to accentuate the positive and hide the negative.
Now put your wheels in motion – step one of the lap dancing instructions guide
So this is it, you feel great, look great and you're going to make your lover beg for it BIG TIME. Start your lap dance by standing several steps in front of him. Begin moving your hips to the music in a soft circular kind of motion. Take your time, then, in a catlike motion slowly sway toward your partner and when you're near enough, take your lap dance to the next level.
Your next step is all about positioning
Gracefully lift one leg and place it between your partner's wide-opened legs. Then place your other leg on the arm of the chair. Your legs should be positioned wide opened in front of your partner's face – this is a position no guy on earth could resist ! Yeah, easy if you are flexible. For those that aren't lean into one of his legs and then push your toes underneath his other thigh. If you can reach your foot up to his thigh it must stay pointed, Keep your heel lifted or this can look quite terrible. Also don't push down into his thigh just gently rest your toes there.

Continue swaying and passionately run your hands over your body: breasts, ass, feet umm I really don't think there is a need to touch your feet. Hair is better. :)and slowly up to your sweet stuff. Touch yourself as if you're completely turned on and wishing it was him touching your body .
The art of teasing is about to get hotter
If your lover's turned on now, just wait 'til you see how he reacts next. This is my favourite part – showing him some skin… Slowly and teasingly begin removing your clothes. Top first, then bottom, bra, underwear yep, simple huh, ...lol. There is a fine art to clothing removal, but apparently there wasn't enough time for that here and last your stockings and heels NO!!!! leave these on. Are you crazy?. Be cool and take your time peeling off your clothes, your lover should be the only one exploding with anticipation...
Don’t forget this
Throughout your lap dance continue stroking yourself and don’t stay too close to him. Move away for brief moments' every now and again. No. He will have made a triangle with his legs. Stay in the triangle. Once you commit to the lap dance stay within the triangle. Alternate between your hands on his shoulders and standing up in the triangle.This will give him a chance to see your body and fantasize on what he would like to do to it…

You should also remember this...
Eye contact is very important. Let your eyes transmit all those sexy thoughts you have racing through your mind. Let him see your eyes burn with hunger, but stay cool, relaxed and most importantly - don’t forget to smile. YES! I call this the Predator Face...
The teasing isn't over yet…
Only a few more lap dancing instructions left to go. So, at this point you should get closer again, get so close you'll practically be sitting on his lap. Sensually lean in towards his ear. Nibble and lick it, breathing your hot breath over it, let out a soft aching moan. Softly nibble his neck, and then smell him, breathing him in as if you were getting high off his scent. Yep, yep, yep.
Touch him, tease him and watch him jump out of his skin
Rub your nipples along his body and face. I love this one.Withdraw if he tries to touch them. Slink in between his open legs and lower yourself until you're right in front of his firmly erect love handle. Flicker your tongue all over it. ..wait.. is this a blow job or a lap dance??? Rub it up and down – don’t keep this up too long – you don’t want him reaching any satisfaction. NO. You lap dance for him when he is fully dressed.
Congrats, by now you probably have him eating out of the palm of your hand!
Well, I think you just covered all the basic lap dancing instructions. Well, they covered the extra things but not really any moves. But the extra things were spot on.You should be more then ready to fly solo now. I recommend reading these instructions over once more and playing out each step. Practice the dance moves to your choice of music before your grand performance. And let these two basic ideas guide your way: work it slow and tease, tease, tease.

How to striptease ...our article. Section D of PART I

Step Three: Bring him to ecstasy by pretending you are in it.

Throughout the dance, your eyes should do three things and only three. One: look directly into his eyes; use the sorcerer move. Look at him like you want him more than a starving man wants bread. Two: keep your eyes closed. Allow him the freedom to explore your body with his own eyes without feeling like you are watching him. This is the ultimate voyeuristic pleasure for him. They love to watch us! Three: watch your own hands as they move across your body (I will cover hand moves in part two.). Whatever you do, never look around the room. Next, make your breathing heavy. Do all the little things your body does right before orgasm. Lick your lips, moan ever so slightly, roll your head back, and open your mouth. Yes!

Now you have lit the candles, shaved further back than you ever thought possible, and you mugged in the mirror so much you can do it in your sleep. You are feeling like Cleopatra in a pearl back thong. But, now the question is, how do I actually dance? How do I move my hips, perform a lap dance, and turn in these heels. Just stay tuned to part two to learn all the movement secrets. But in the meantime, practice what you have learned so far. Purchase your ideal costume, perfect your seductive smile, practice walking in your heels, and work on that mantra. And do not feel guilty if you start to become more excited about the way you feel regarding yourself than the way he is going to feel when you are done with your dance. Like I said, it is okay to be a little selfish.


Stay tuned for PART II !!!!

How to perform a striptease ...our article. Section C of PART I

Step two: Harness your confidence, or at least the look of it.

Gentleman’s clubs always advertise a bevy of top notch, Playboy quality beauties for your carnal pleasure. However, the truth is that they are not all Barbie doll babes. They can be extremely short, very tall, sport double Gs, or be flat chested. They can be too thin or quite chunky. I have seen a shaved head dancing next to Portia De Rossi hair. Some wear more makeup than Tammy Faye, and some have never used mascara in their life. But they all make money. So who makes the most? It is not always the prettiest girl with the perfect C cup. It also is not the girl who dances a little closer than she should in the VIP room. Time and time again, the girl who leaves with the fattest wad of bills is the girl who exudes the most confidence through out the night, be it on stage or on the floor. Whether it is a put on or sincere, confidence is a must. At first, for you, it probably will not be genuine. After all, it can be a daunting experience to stand in front of your man and put on a sexy show. It is natural to be nervous, but you must put on an act. Every exotic dancer has something that they feel completely self conscious about, but they fake it and push onward! So, how do you achieve this false confidence when all you can think about is your exposed cellulite, falling in your heels, and whether or not he is going to laugh or cry? Your first step is to practice, practice, practice. I will say it again, it is imperative that everything is this little guide be practiced. Strippers are not born; they are made through 8 hours a night, 4 days a week of on the job training. Trust me, every veteran in the bar can spot a new girl a mile away. Just keep that in the back of your mind.
To achieve the look of confidence, a constant smile is paramount. Not the beauty queen smile, but the, I have a naughty little secret smile. Smile a devious smile like the Elvis grin that made the world week in the knees. Now, tilt your head down slightly, and lift your eyes. You are now in predator mode, and he is most definitely the prey. Mimic the Sahara lion stalking her prey in the tall grass, moving deliberately. You are in control of this show, this ride, this moment. Then you must find your mantra. This is something you will repeat over and over inside your head. It should pull your focus inward and make you feel powerful. Repeat, “He wants me. He is so hot for me, I could just stand here and he would pop a woody.” Sound stuck up? Good! Remember, selfish stripper! By doing this you are oozing confidence and finding your power. Next, look at him and narrow your eyes a la Paris Hilton. Imagine yourself as Medusa or a powerful sorceress, and your gaze is what keeps the spell alive, intact. Practice this face in the mirror. Just like models practice their look in a mirror, so should you, until it becomes easy and natural. Do it while you put on your make up in the morning.

How to perform a striptease ...our article. Section A of PART I

You go girl, you finally did it! You took a strip cardio class, wore your new Victoria’s Secret bra, sat your lover down, and told him to prepare for your alluring and tantalizing striptease. Except… it didn’t go quite as planned. To work up your courage, you drank one too many glasses of wine. You fell twice. You couldn’t get your damn bra unhooked, and instead of channeling Gypsy Rose Lee or Carmen Electra, you embodied a dancing hybrid of Dame Edna and Elaine from Seinfeld. Bless your heart, you tried. The truth is it is not as easy as strippers make it look. Nevertheless, striptease is a fantastic way to get in touch with your inner diva and show your sweetheart that you aim to please. There is nothing better than a new trick that causes your lover to stare at you with wide eyes and gasp, “Where did you learn that?”

Now more than ever, women are lining up in droves to learn this special way of erotic and powerful control. I know because I myself teach ordinary women how to move like exotic dancers. I have taught all types, sizes, and shapes of women including grandmothers, CEOs, third grade teachers and doctors. I am 29 now, and I spent the majority of my twenties as a topless dancer, dancing my way into the hearts and wallets of men for more years than I care to admit. And I was good. When the guys were not spending money in the bar, the rear dressing room would become full of girls. But I was rarely in the back. Once a fellow dancer walked into the dressing room filled with fed up girls, sat next to me, and said, “Well, if you’re back here, I know there’s no money out there!” I was always raking in the dough. However, I was not the best looking girl in the club. I was muscular with a thick waist, thin hair, and a small B cup. But I had perfected the art of seduction through dance, and until I had become burned out during my last few years, I usually had at least 2-3 guys waiting for a lap dance through out my entire shift.

So why do women want to do this tawdry tango for their partners in the first place? Why not just buy a new sex toy or slip on a cop's outfit for a little role play? There is something powerful about striptease, and it is also something most men fantasize about. Guys do not stand in the street ogling the traffic cop at 23rd and 5th or wait in line at the downtown sex shop when the latest ball tickler or Jenna Jameson video is released. But they will wait in line, pay a twenty dollar cover charge, spend four times the street value for a beer, and drop hundreds to thousands in a single sitting on an exotic dancer. Why? Honestly, it is different for each guy. Usually, it is either the fantasy of the unattainable, the opportunity to get close to a beautiful woman who will show him her boobs, the chance to have the most stunning girls in the room vying for his attention (a.k.a. money), the possibility that he will be able to touch what shouldn’t be touched, the novelty of being in the “titty bar”, or just a chance to hang with the boys and act like cave men (Beer good. Woman good.). The list goes on and on. For most, it is the equivalent of us ladies snagging a win-a-date with our favorite hunky celeb. We know he won’t really be interested, but just maybe. And if he wants to lean over and plant one…well, we wouldn’t mind! It is a one-night fantasy. But the question to ask is, how do I tap into that fantasy? How do I become her?

Here it is, your two part 21st century guide to striptease. Even though it is not as easy as it looks, it can be learned, and most importantly, it can be mastered! The first part of this guide will cover the exterior appearance of an exotic dancer and the initial set up of your own “main stage.” The second part will cover the actual moves to make your honey drool. First things first, you have to stop thinking about how this is going to please him (Or her for all my lovely lesbians out there. And yes, the same rules apply.), and start thinking about how this is going to benefit you, because in the long run, it will. Think of yourself as the self centered, selfish stripper.